taken by Crow Comoda
We're watching So You Think You Can Dance Canada and one of the male dancers says something along the lines of: Jazz dancing gets a bad rap because people think it's for girls.
An innocent enough statement, I suppose, though it struck me as off this time. Why does something being associated with girls give it a bad rap?
Which is what I said to my t.v. watching partner to which he answered: "I guess if you're a guy, it could be considered that way."
Me: "But if a woman wants to do something that's traditionally a men's thing, there's no bad rap. She's considered strong. There's no stigma."
Him: "Yay for women's lib. It wasn't always that way. In the old days, a tomboy wasn't a good thing. It was practically considered being a lesbian."
Me: *getting irate* "There is nothing wrong with being a lesbian."
Him: "I just meant...never mind...not interested in having this conversation. You don't get it."
O.o Clearly. (The fact he just shut me down with no discussion is for another, much less public rant in which smoke will likely billow from ears and my eyes will glow a dull red.)
So back to this gender role thing: please help me with what I "don't get". Just what is it I am not getting? Because I've already had this conversation with my eight year old son. I've suggested he rethink the idea that there's something wrong with being compared to girls. No one bats an eye when comparing girls to boys and being impressed when they measure up, but they disparage boys who measure themselves against girls. Why? What's so wrong with being a girl that you'd be embarrassed at being compared to one? When I asked the boy that, he couldn't really give me an answer.
So I asked him what, about being a girl, his sister should be ashamed of.
I think he got my point. I worry that the older men in his life don't seem to. Is it just hardwired in their heads to think this way?
Or am I actually missing something? Because if I am, please help me out here. Enlighten me.