Friday, 11 November 2011

There's Always Something...

So many rants, so little time...

So to pick one out of the hat, let's talk today about how one thing or another always seems to come into play to make life difficult. You know, that whole, just when you think you've crested the hill and coast down the other side, you see that there's just more uphill in front of you?

Mostly, it's about finding time to write. Now a long time ago, we (my family and I) made the decision that I would be the wage earner and Hubs would be the primary care giver. I am in no way regretting that decision. The kids have reached an age (and frankly, I think so have I) where i can no longer effectively home school them.The arrangement works tolerably well. More than tolerably, actually.

I like my day job. I work part time making sandwiches for business men and cheerfully taking their money. It's a fun job, not very taxing, and it has actually got me moving enough I've lost a bit of weight. WOOT!

I don't hate my other day job, working occasional full time for the government. Lots of aspects of the way the government handles their workers, I take exception to, but that is not something I can publicly rant about :D The people are nice, the job itself is not terrible. 'Nuff said.

There is also the matter of the 'volunteer' work I do for my daughter's dance studio so she can take all teh dance classes she wants to do. I don't mind any of that. Mostly, it's pretty fun, and stuff that's desperately in need of getting done.

What irks me are all the little inconvenient happenings that screw up the schedule. Like a writing conference I would not have missed for the world, that was piles of fun and a wonderful time. And kept me from writing for about three weeks with any sort of consistency as I prepared, made swag, traveled, decompressed afterward... And there are the small issues of hubs health messing with what he's capable of doing. So totally not his fault. But kids still need to get to lessons, the house still needs to be cleaned etc, etc, and while I'm doing his job, his job is getting done. Mine is not.

So when I get a royalty check, and it's smaller than I had hoped and he says why haven't you had a release lately, I want to...yes. I'll say it. I want to rip his arm off and beat him with the bloody stump. Only then he'd have another injury he wouldn't be able to work around....

P.S. don't get me wrong. I'm not blaming him for anything, and more than I am saying I would have forgone GayRomLit so I could stay home and get more writing done. He can't help it. He does the best he can, and I have so very many things to be grateful for where he is concerned. I just wish, for a little while, nothing would "come up" that interferes with MY TIME. damnit!

5 comments:

Anthology Authors said...

I'm so with you, Jaime. I've been there many times. Mine seems to think that because I work from home, taking time to do the laundry in the middle of the day, run errands, shop for food, call people to make appointments or see about something won't mess up my work schedule. You know, I'm home, right? So, I should be able to do all of that AND work at the same time. O.o Um, yeah, no. Then he'll come home and ask me what I did all day. Was it productive? "In what way?" I ask him. "Did I get it all of your agenda done or mine? Well, neither, actually."

So, yeah, I get it. Boy, do I get it.

And, yes, I am grateful for my husband. He's great in many ways. However, like me, he does not walk on water. (g)

HeWhoMustObey said...

sorry, can't help it, Jaime:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mjEcj8KpuJw&feature=share

Jaime Samms said...

Exactly, Marci: who's agenda is more pressing? He's got the kids, I have to make the money. Both. Blah.

But the Monty Python gave me a laugh! Thanks :D

Faith said...

LOL, that made me think of a Yeti movie I saw over the weekend. He did the same thing but ripped the guy's leg off and beat him with it. I wondered why he came out of the cave with tangled hair and fangs. Not enough writing time and no new releases, lmao!

Valerie Mann said...

I completely get it, Jaime! Finding time in our busy lives to pee or *gasp* get a good night's sleep is difficult enough. Getting creative enough to put out a coherent and productive book is heroic! You're doing great! Don't kid yourself!!