by Valerie Mann
What a fabulous world we get to play in! Speaking as a romance author, editor and whatever else I find to do in the romance world, I have more fun than I probably have the right to. In fact, I keep wondering why it took me so long to get here!
But (you knew there’d be a but after all that yippee ki-yay, right?), it never fails to amaze me how many people who play in my wonderful world are actually just adult versions of the kids I played with on the playground. From the peacemakers to the bullies. Human nature never changes.
Have you ever played the Six Degrees game? You know, where you figure out how many degrees removed you are from somebody else. Like, I’m only one degree removed from Daniel Craig because I met a woman who worked on a movie set with him. *sigh* I despise that one degree so much J
Which brings me to my real point: the world is a big place, but the romance world is oh-so-small. If you work or play in this playground, you are never more than one degree removed from everyone else. Okay, so it might not be as thrilling as, say, one degree away from Daniel Craig (you know you’re jealous), but it’s still important to remember that you have to behave and play nice—with everybody on the playground. No matter who they are, whether they’re already “famous” or a name you don’t recognize, you know somebody who knows that person, or they know somebody who knows you.
Obviously, I’m working through some recent BS with arrogant and bitchy people who need a lesson in romance playground etiquette. But I need to follow my own advice and keep my mouth shut (while retaining a long memory!). Instead, I'll blog about it and maybe have some self-induced therapy at the same time.
Here is my list of proper romance playground etiquette:
* Say nice things in public, rant to your friends in private.
* Make sure the friends you rant to are really your friends.
* Don't bitch about your publishers and/or editors in public. They'll definitely find out about it. And they talk to other publishers and editors. All the time. Trust me on this.
*Facebook, Twitter, Google+, etc. are NOT your friends. They are tools to promote your business. Don't trust them for anything more than that.
* Don't be a bully. Everyone started at the bottom. Including me and you.
What would YOU add to this list?
How have you handled playground BS?