tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post1024820098846406776..comments2023-10-21T08:22:23.232-07:00Comments on Four Strong Women: Oh, Behave!Emmy Ellishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06348320835897735088noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-68451144092501673372013-06-18T15:58:21.739-07:002013-06-18T15:58:21.739-07:00Yup, publishers talk... a lot. :D The old adage &q...Yup, publishers talk... a <i>lot</i>. :D The old adage "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" rings true no matter what business you are in. Every business pool is small, no matter how big it appears to be. The movie biz is very small. The publishing biz is very small. Even if people seem to be competitors, the chance is that they talk and will help each other by passing on information. Why? Because none of us want to see anyone suffer from the same thing we did. Okay. Well, <i>most</i> of us don't. Those who don't learn this when they are young may learn it too late.<br /><br />Courtesy, while at times may seem hard, is really the best policy. It pays to be professional all of the time, whether you want to be or not. If you aren't, it can come back to bite you.<br /><br />And, yes, The Golden Rule is the best rule to live by.Marci Baunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01850775917897362922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-50400576678644704242013-06-18T15:18:30.031-07:002013-06-18T15:18:30.031-07:00That Golden Rule is applicable in this business, t...That Golden Rule is applicable in this business, too, Val, and if you think the romance world is small, have a gander around the m/m romance world. Minuscule. There is no place to hide the ugly, so just don't do it. And I'm like you. I am what you see. Exactly the same in person (I hope)as I am online and I take people at the same face value. Which I should know better than to do by now, but *sigh* There it is.<br /><br />All I know is I had one of the best starts a person could hope for in the business, with the editors I worked with out of the gate, and the publishers who have helped me along along the way, and I hope I manage to give even a fraction of what they gave me back.Jaime Sammshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756034484406953047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-77289011941660910302013-06-18T08:55:16.830-07:002013-06-18T08:55:16.830-07:00Anyone who has been in this business long enough w...Anyone who has been in this business long enough will encounter the "mean girls", and you'll get burned by people you thought were your "friend" but were actually using your back as a step stool to the next level. <br /><br />I'm pretty stupid. I'm a what-you-see-is-what-you-get kind of person. I have no agenda, EVER. I'm also a Yankee and stuff shoots out of my mouth that I sometimes regret. But I don't use people, I don't disrespect people (unless I'm lashing back after they dished crap out to me or my loved ones) and this makes me stupid sometimes...I don't see the agenda of others and I constantly get blindsided by people who aren't like me.<br /><br />Publishers have Do Not Publish lists...I have a You're On My Shit List list. If you aren't nice to me or someone I care about, I will never help you like I would have otherwise. And honestly, who wants that kind of negativity anyway. Just live by the Golden Rule. It's not hard to do! And it has so many benefits!<br /><br />Valerie Mannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11761558020418265338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-88206303858398263732013-06-18T05:42:15.590-07:002013-06-18T05:42:15.590-07:00oh, on recent experience, don't offer too many...oh, on recent experience, don't offer too many opinions on other author's books, even presented as a "review." As an author, you are a little limited in how your "review" will be perceived. Trust me. I learned the hard way.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15182147051413946727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-17722459563109237402013-06-18T05:38:21.393-07:002013-06-18T05:38:21.393-07:00Have not, so far, had a problem with social media....Have not, so far, had a problem with social media...or even Goodreads for that matter. My favorite GR review was "this is effed up" without anything more! Anyone who reads my books, BUYS my books is entitled to an opinion...even if I am not always sure of their reading comprehension ability! Still, it's been more good than bad and I appreciate that more than I can say.<br />As for paying it forward...special shout out to the extremely generous Rebecca Royce, who sprinkles plot bunnies hither and yon and onto her fellow authors, like some kind of fairy godmother!Taryn Kincaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11130206764352777367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-57661139882452181592013-06-18T05:33:58.610-07:002013-06-18T05:33:58.610-07:00Unfortunately, courtesy is not being taught to the...Unfortunately, courtesy is not being taught to the younger generation. Not when acting badly gets you noticed or 'air time', which is too bad. People want drama instead of Utopia.<br /><br />I'll take Utopia and save the drama for the two reality shows I DO watch: Survivor and Big Brother.<br /><br />Excellent post Val!Molly Danielshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01488325587798390008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-61460548251277769082013-06-18T05:31:16.216-07:002013-06-18T05:31:16.216-07:00As a reviewer/owner of a review site, I've bee...As a reviewer/owner of a review site, I've been burned too many times. I've never publicly denounced an author but I do have a list of them that are not welcome on my blog because of their behavior. <br /><br />Great post and yes, social media is NOT your friend. <br /><br />Marika/HarlieHarlie Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01866226921079232570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-1097779984919103352013-06-18T05:11:26.453-07:002013-06-18T05:11:26.453-07:00Don't put too much faith in how others are tru...Don't put too much faith in how others are truly willing to help you. Paying it forward is good (I do it for a select few) but some folks will never be willing to have your back when it counts no matter how much you have boosted them up. <br />good post Val. I hate this job sometimes. today is one of those times.....Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15182147051413946727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-30903430730014472672013-06-17T22:18:45.611-07:002013-06-17T22:18:45.611-07:00GREAT post! I try to live my writing life like my ...GREAT post! I try to live my writing life like my real life. If I don't have something nice to say, I don't say anything at all. Also, I try to treat others as I would like to be treated.Alexa Bournehttp://www.alexabourne.comnoreply@blogger.com