Friday, 30 January 2009

Bug-eyed Cat

I have four cats. Mother Cat, Eldest Son Cat, Youngest Son Cat, and Daughter Cat.

Daughter cat is a little ‘special’. She isn’t ‘all there’. She has massive ears and eyes and skitters about as though frightened. I think this is just her weird behaviour. So, when I want to put her outside, she runs around to get away from me. You would think, like her mother and brothers, that she’d realise that I always catch her in the end. But no, she runs every time.

Today she ran into our coat cupboard. This really gets on my nerves. I don’t want cat hairs on our coats. Inside the cupboard sits a large chest—the shoe box, as we call it. So, determined now out of anger to catch the cat, I get down on hands and knees, hang my torso over the chest, and pat around at the back for the cat, all the while ranting, “I’ll bloody find you, you know. Out! Come on, bloody get OUT!”

The cupboard doors are slim. One is always shut, so I’d squeezed into the space created by one door being open. Dark as feck in that cupboard. I batted around hoping to find fur and pick her up. As she doesn’t have a bell on her collar like the other cats (it drove her mad, and she kept trying to bite it off. I told you she’s weird), I couldn’t hear when she moved. But I felt her. Oh yes. The little cow had been sitting at the other end of the shoe box all along. She brushed past me and the closed door. More angry now at being thwarted, I backed out of the cupboard.

Got my arse stuck.


After getting hot and bothered and managing to free myself as well as realising I need to go on yet another diet, I followed Weird Cat, who sauntered with smugness, into the living room. I closed the living room door so she couldn’t return to the cupboard and spent a couple of minutes chasing her around. She must be special, because she didn’t think to hide behind the sofa.

Anyway. I got hold of her, put her outside, and plan to ignore her bug-eyed silent pleas to return inside as she stares at me when I go out for my cigarette.

Yeah. No cat forces me to accept my arse is too big and gets away with it.

Tuesday, 27 January 2009


Monday, 12 January 2009

Writing and a Review

As everyone knows, I write erotic romance and erotica. I write a little bondage and spanking, handcuffs here and there. Just wrote my first menage actually and it included male/male. So as a writer, I try to work it bayyybeeee! lol

So what am I getting at here? The way some writers can get into the heads of their characters. And for this discussion, characters in sexual situations involving the practice of BDSM. The fact is you don't always need to experience something to write it well. That's where the author's imagination and good research comes in. Well, we writers don't always tout the genius of others, although we can be quite complimentary and supportive, but I just had to say something about a new author.

Sarah Masters.

This author knows how to get into the head of her characters without a doubt. I'm published with Freya's Bower and I saw this new title on their home page. The cover pretty much drew me in. Very dark, sexy. The title of this story is Dominatrix.
At $1.25 it's a real bargain, so I made the purchase. To be honest, I'd never read an erotic romance or work of erotica that portrayed a female Dom. Everything I'd ever read had used the big alpha male. So this quickie of Ms. Master's really intrigued me.


She gave the reader insight that I'd never seen portrayed before. The emotions of her leading lady as she went about her work rang so true. Imagine a woman wielding a whip to a man who has paid her to do so. Then imagine this same woman showing her vulnerability, just opening up her soul and spitting out everything she had to the reader. The entire story, while depicting her at work, focused on Mistress Shadow's internal conflict. The emotions her submissive brought out in her.

During a recent discussion among some writers about writing BDSM, Ms. Master's book was touted by several who had read it. One writer said it all quite succinctly when he expressed the only negative about this book. It was too short--he wanted more. And I so agree. As I understand it, there will be a series of ten from Sarah Masters and I encourage everyone to sample her incredibly well-written work.

To pick up a copy here's the link:

Oh, and I just found out she has a new title available on January 13th entitled "Trussed". Don't forget to check her out.

On another note, my highly romantic erotic novella, His Sweet Obsession, will release on January 15th from Whiskey Creek Press Torrid. Stop by my website and read an excerpt. and if you like it, stop by Whiskey Creek Press Torrid on January 15th and pick up a copy.

Monday, 5 January 2009

For the Love of Reading...And Love!

I've been bugging two of my favorite readers to write something about how they read erotic romance together. How it has changed their marriage. A lot of you have probably chatted with Deb and Bob on groups. Deb recently started her own review site~ MoonDancer Reviews. You can also find her reviews at Deb loves romance and enjoys asking authors all sorts of questions about their work.

Husband Bob owns his own construction business and reads right along with Deb. He also enjoys restoring his 1962 Harley. VROOOM VROOOM!!

Let's see what the happy couple think about what we write.

Deb's Take:

As a married couple life for us was going along smoothly or so we thought.

Bob and I found that we were in a rut. Having no time as a couple, between kids, work, traveling. One night I was sitting reading and Bob came up behind me, he started reading then asked if he could sit down and read along with me. That is how it started. As time went on we broadened our reading together.

Next it was Bob and myself reading bits out loud. After that we started just reading out loud all together. Now once a month we get away one night to a hotel, cabin, even our home when the kids are gone, cuddle up and read out loud to each. It has brought us closer, helped us see that even an old married couple can learn something new. It has added to our bedroom play as well.

As long as we both agree to it, we experiment in love play. It has brought back the fire we had when our lives were simpler.

BOB here:

On my end of this marriage I knew we needed something to change.

Imagine being a man and thinking you were losing your wife whom you'd loved for 20 years. It is a wake up call I hope no one has to experience.

I am not ashamed to say that we were not happy as a couple in and out of bed. The passion we had was lost to everyday life. We loved to experiment sexually and were quite passionate about it. When the day went by to where we air kissed each other in passing I knew I wanted my wife back.

I never knew that there was such pleasure in holding my wife and reading with her. It is a pleasure that I will never lose again.

We have had people criticize us, even friends saying “They could not believe the extreme we were going to, to save what we have.”
To them I say, “Wait till you are in my shoes.”

It is not that I need to read everything my wife does, because I don't. I do have books I will not read with her. I don't feel the need to read with her everyday.
I like that we do our own thing as well.

We do not read the books to get ideas for sexual play, I will put that out there now. We read for the pleasure of reading together.
There are times we get curious as to how to do things then we turn to books to help.
Spanking, bondage, oral play was something we lost, that we both loved rediscovering. There are things even an old couple like ourselves can learn.

Karma Sutra products have become our favorites. I purchased us a sensual massage basket as a gift for Christmas. The book is amazing. I never knew there were so many facets to a woman's body. The Book is “Sensual Massage by : Susan Mumford” I also put in the basket “The Joy of Erotic Massage” DVD

This book is one we bought, It is not for the faint of heart..

Try this book.
By Violet Blue
Sweet, hot and irresistibly delicious. Who can resist temptation? Certainly not the thirteen couples that dial in each other’s number-one sexual fantasies and can’t keep their hands off each other in the short stories collected in Sweet Heat: Explicit Erotica For Couples edited by Violet Blue.

Thirteen stories feature no-holds-barred, sometimes lightly kinky erotica from bestselling erotica authors Alison Tyler, Saskia Walker, Emilie Paris and N.T. Morley, while a bevy of newcomers showcase fine-tuned erotic lit skills.
Each story is hand-selected by Violet Blue in easy-to-use, shareable e book files. Let the witty and provocative editing of Violet Blue, best-selling writer, sex columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle and editor of the award-winning Best Women’s Erotica series lead you into some of the hottest, juiciest sexual adventures two lovers can share.

Fun things to do as a couple that we now do..
1- Go out on dates
2-Read together
3-Pretend to be tourist for a day, explore.
4- Explore each other

There is a lot of information out there to help a couple, but you have to do what you and your partner feel comfortable with. What fits your life style.

The whole thing in a nutshell is listen to what you are saying to each other. That is the #1 most important thing, even if the words are not there the actions could be.

We would Love to hear your comments..
With Love and Sass..
Bob and Deb

Many thanks to Bob and Deb for sharing their insights. What a fabulous couple!