tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post4445356169389396652..comments2023-10-21T08:22:23.232-07:00Comments on Four Strong Women: On Being Your Own Worst CriticEmmy Ellishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06348320835897735088noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-86481965616844008372013-01-06T14:11:52.708-08:002013-01-06T14:11:52.708-08:00Yeah, I work 2 p/t jobs for the "bread money&...Yeah, I work 2 p/t jobs for the "bread money"...actually for the "tuition money", since we still have 2 kids in college. Husband keeps telling me I should get a full-time job doing something, but after 10 years of sending out resumes till my fingers hurt, I'm not so sure anymore. So I keep on trying to bring in enough $ to pay some of the bills, yet the voices in my head tell me to write more.<br /><br />I try to write more, I send out manuscripts, then they get accepted. Temporarily I feel validated. Then they get published to public indifference. Some quarters I don't even get royalties because so few copies sold that it's not worth it to cut me a check. Sigh. <br /><br />Then I tell myself again that I write crap that obviously no one wants to read. Then the voices start yelling at me again to write, and I stay up too late writing, then run into walls all the next day as I plod through my 15-hour work days doing 2 jobs that any trained monkey could do as well. <br /><br />Oh, I know all too well what you are talking about! And I've let my book promos slide for the past 3 weeks because my out-of-town kids were home for the holidays. Now it's back to business, but my husband still won't tell his family about my books because I write "smut", and he doesn't want them to think less of me.<br /><br />What tangled webs we mortals weave, eh? You are NOT alone!Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-65478138040867258802013-01-05T18:41:52.144-08:002013-01-05T18:41:52.144-08:00Oh, I know. The problem is when you let it get out...Oh, I know. The problem is when you let it get out of control. Suddenly that five minute task is a six hour task. LOLMarci Baunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01850775917897362922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-30204570929290205452013-01-05T14:33:56.597-08:002013-01-05T14:33:56.597-08:00Congrats on being able to convince yourself it *is...Congrats on being able to convince yourself it *is* enough, Janice, I think that really is a key to actually being productive is being able to appreciate your own achievements and move forward to the next thing.Jaime Sammshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756034484406953047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-37091579796380951062013-01-05T12:07:12.415-08:002013-01-05T12:07:12.415-08:00I have that little voice that nags at me too. I wr...I have that little voice that nags at me too. I write until the wee hours of the morning and fall into bed, then that voice will start with not enough. <br /><br />I have my lists. If I cross stuff off then it is enough.<br /><br />Janice~Janice Seagraveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576031935823587485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-5240273091706133002013-01-04T17:23:54.329-08:002013-01-04T17:23:54.329-08:00Starfox, you can't let the little voice drown ...Starfox, you can't let the little voice drown out your muses, honey. You just can't.<br /><br />See, Marci? That's the trick. Just do it. I have also made a vow not to collect little jobs I an do later, but to actually do the little jobs as they come up. Most of them only take five minutes if I don't let them pile up.<br /><br />You're right. Jessica. Always, always more to add to the bottom of that list.<br /><br />I think that's my main issue with my day job, Taryn. It does pay the bills, but that emo artist in me refuses to burn myself out on it because that is not my passion, and I want my passion to be my life, I don't want to have to put my passion on hold while I deal with life. Make sense?Jaime Sammshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756034484406953047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-23030435612632613552013-01-04T15:56:22.212-08:002013-01-04T15:56:22.212-08:00Wow, you sound like such a worker bee. Especially ...Wow, you sound like such a worker bee. Especially compared to me, a slothful slug. Except when I'm at work at the day job, when I AM a worker bee. But...<i>that</i> is what pays the bills...so <i>that</i> is what gets my energy!Taryn Kincaidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11130206764352777367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-40569493334601484722013-01-04T10:59:29.189-08:002013-01-04T10:59:29.189-08:00Hey, I'm happy if I can cross one thing off my...Hey, I'm happy if I can cross one thing off my list at the end of the day. If I can cross more off, even better. BUT, there is always more to add to the list...Jessica E. Subjecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14356934162311768234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-5536461080800955012013-01-04T10:28:57.380-08:002013-01-04T10:28:57.380-08:00This is why I don't write, sing, or compose mu...This is why I don't write, sing, or compose much, but that's changing this year. I'm going to regardless. If it turns out to be shit (pardon me, but my filter has been off for a few days), then it's shit. I'll deal with it, but I'm at least going to <i>do</i> it.Marci Baunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01850775917897362922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-25066280755433093872013-01-04T09:03:19.982-08:002013-01-04T09:03:19.982-08:00Yes, I'm my own worst critic. More work than d...Yes, I'm my own worst critic. More work than day, needing to do "paying" work rather than writing, etc. etc. etc. Even when I write, it's never long enough and what I do write is never good enough.<br /><br />Oh that voice in your head, <b>you're no good, you'll never be good enough, you write like a first grader with a broken crayon</b>.Starfox Howlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15538783469778078227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-30724432065549482392013-01-04T08:56:30.665-08:002013-01-04T08:56:30.665-08:00It's like the day job, Faith. I hate it and I ...It's like the day job, Faith. I hate it and I need it to pay the bills until I have enough writing going on to do that, but I can't write if I'm out of the house working....yeah. sucktastic.Jaime Sammshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756034484406953047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-43719473143792943762013-01-04T08:54:13.660-08:002013-01-04T08:54:13.660-08:00Yes, I am DEFO the same way!
My biggest problem i...Yes, I am DEFO the same way!<br /><br />My biggest problem is that I have several clients I edit for, so I tend to put their manuscripts before my work. The reason I do this is because I reason that they're depending on me. However, I can't make any money with my writing unless I actually write something.<br /><br />Vicious, vicious cycle, lol.Faith Bicknellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08978240749619858463noreply@blogger.com