tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post1938917352859533374..comments2023-10-21T08:22:23.232-07:00Comments on Four Strong Women: Unrealistic Fantasies by Nichelle GregoryEmmy Ellishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06348320835897735088noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-80777121284035977802011-03-14T22:15:40.014-07:002011-03-14T22:15:40.014-07:00Hey, Fiona!
I appreciate your lengthy response. Y...Hey, Fiona!<br /><br />I appreciate your lengthy response. You said so many good things in there! And you're so right the real measure of passion is when your partner knows you minus the make-up, the perfected smile and witty conversation. <br /><br />"Women have to feel loved to want sex. Men have to have sex to feel loved. Viva la difference!"<br /><br />TRUTH! What a paradox these statements pose...because all to often men try to have sex without showing their lover (in the way she needs to be shown)how much they are loved. There's no denying men have needs and want to feel desired too. I agree with you that it's a two way street to keep passion alive!<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by and for the cover compliment! April Martinez did a fantastic job! ;)Nichelle Gregoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11981370647809108218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-16930813898163954702011-03-14T20:21:56.004-07:002011-03-14T20:21:56.004-07:00Duh...I got so wordy I forgot to say, yes, VERY ho...Duh...I got so wordy I forgot to say, yes, VERY hot cover! I love interracial romances...it lends a special flavor to the relationship in my opinion. Me-thinks my kindle is hungry again!Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-26570918433429838642011-03-14T20:19:25.076-07:002011-03-14T20:19:25.076-07:00I think that a woman longs for a man to treat her ...I think that a woman longs for a man to treat her like she's so hot he can't control himself around her...research says that's what gets her aroused more than anything else. But actually men want to feel they are sexy also. The shame of it is that both need to actively contribute to keeping sexual passion alive, and it can be done...but it takes work! That's why so many have affairs...it's easy to be sexy with someone who only sees you at work, when you are dressed up, smell nice, and look good. But the person who sees you when the baby has barfed on you, who still finds you sexy when you haven't had time for a shower and feel fat and bloated...that's the measure of real passion! <br />For the record, I also was a wild woman in my younger days, so yes, much of what is written is actually physically possible. And it is possible to be multi-pleasured each time, but you have to teach him to do what you want, and you have to stimulate him also.<br /><br />Women have to feel loved to want sex. Men have to have sex to feel loved. Viva la difference!<br /><br /> I write contemporary romances where both the heroine and hero are busy living their lives to the fullest. A meeting, a lustful incident...he is usually the first to realize they belong together,and he has to work hard to convince her.Fiona McGierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495707848048468428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-39333203769677610822011-03-14T13:02:28.346-07:002011-03-14T13:02:28.346-07:00Thanks, Janice! :)Thanks, Janice! :)Nichelle Gregoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11981370647809108218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-12390299046467154182011-03-13T20:32:31.937-07:002011-03-13T20:32:31.937-07:00I think most women realize that the romance is a f...I think most women realize that the romance is a fantasy. <br /><br />Good luck with your new release.<br /><br />Janice~Janice Seagraveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576031935823587485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-69536718127476259212011-03-13T18:46:00.847-07:002011-03-13T18:46:00.847-07:00Hi, Lisabet! April Martinez crafted the gorgeous c...Hi, Lisabet! April Martinez crafted the gorgeous cover. I love it too!<br /><br />I think that's the draw with romance novels too...them being completely different from real life and that's what makes them so enjoyable to write too!<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by! ;-)<br /><br />Hey, Maggie!<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your thoughts!<br />Research can be so much fun! *g*Nichelle Gregoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11981370647809108218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-54784955449036278322011-03-13T01:49:01.434-08:002011-03-13T01:49:01.434-08:00Hey Nichelle...
I have to say I agree with you and...Hey Nichelle...<br />I have to say I agree with you and Lisabet that most women read romances for the fantasy. A well written story with well developed characters is always a joy to read and easily suspends that disbelief so you can enjoy the story and put yourself in the place of the heroine. <br />Much more interesting that real life for most, but as someone who likes to research her stories, I can also say not everything is impossible!<br />MaggieMaggie Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14854209185219050066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-14542408629397727502011-03-12T19:23:29.098-08:002011-03-12T19:23:29.098-08:00Hi, Nichelle,
First of all, the cover of Hearts a...Hi, Nichelle,<br /><br />First of all, the cover of Hearts and Diamonds is one of the most gorgeous I've ever seen! Who's the artist?<br /><br />I didn't read romance as a young woman, so I can't really comment personally on how they might influence expectations. However, based on my interactions with readers, I get the feeling that most of them enjoy romance BECAUSE it's so different from their day to day realities. <br /><br />As for me, I had a rather, shall I say, sexually adventurous youth. WitchGiggles, not all of the stuff you read is impossible!<br /><br />Warmly,<br />LisabetLisabet Saraihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05162514190572269660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-90234591380212120182011-03-12T12:12:05.380-08:002011-03-12T12:12:05.380-08:00Hey, WitchGiggles!
Thanks for your thoughtful res...Hey, WitchGiggles!<br /><br />Thanks for your thoughtful response. I agree that some of the more outrageous sex scenarios make me roll my eyes, but if it's written well...if the author can suspend disbelief long enough for me to think, "that was hot!" I don't care if the couple is having sex upside down in the middle of the ocean!<br /><br />I love your mantra! So true and relevant for us all. I hope you're enjoying your Saturday! Thanks for spending a little bit of it with me. ;-)Nichelle Gregoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11981370647809108218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8144727781552044864.post-35503685594871247552011-03-12T10:20:35.002-08:002011-03-12T10:20:35.002-08:00Sorry to say I've read so many of these that I...Sorry to say I've read so many of these that I've become somewhat jaded at the sex that occurs and began to wonder why women find the sometimes outlandish positions, etcetera appealing. Not to say I don't enjoy a really well written scene,but all too often find it truly humorous when trying to picture some of the positions described....if I were that nimble I'd work for Cirque du Soleil and at least get really well paid for it (but then I've gotten old and feeble);though if I could find a true shifter that would be cool if only to have a fur blanket to keep me warm on those really cold nights.<br /><br />I'm not trying to be facetious (okay,maybe a little),but when a young person reads one of these and expects a real(this being the key word,here) person to be anywhere near this "hero" in a novel,nine out of ten it's because they have never been put first by anyone and crave the idea of being first with somebody. That's too great a burden to place on anyone and not end up in disaster.<br /><br />My mantra-learn to like yourself, learn to laugh at yourself, learn to laugh at life (even in the darkest of times), learn most of all to take it a day at a time and find the good in a person and cherish that because they've apparently found something worthy to love in you....<br /><br />As to the main question as to whether women of any age compare their real-life partners with the "fantasy hero" in a novel.... yeah,they do;whether consciously or subconsciously we all yearn for perfection,especially when "Mr. Imperfect" is what we live with every day. If the only time you receive flowers is when he's confessing to something he knows will anger you,etc. there is no romance,no cherishing and as caretakers we need that....just my opinion.WitchGiggleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10679334821107448238noreply@blogger.com